I do a blog and I too have not posted much recently….thanks for pointing out how important it is……..I commit to do the same……

Regards, Steve

I understand the stats. I just happen to love the way you do your thing, if you will, I simply do not mind when you are not perfect. I think the quality of your content, the way you give, what you give is so great. I have zero complaints and total loyalty.

Success to you beyond your wildest dreams!,

W
For We Are One!

I have discovered in recent years that my lack of trust in someone else is really a by-product of my lack of trust in myself. And thus it is not really up to the other person to do something to increase my trust in them, but it is my own job to get rid of my lack of trust in myself.

I have realized that I am the one creating all my problems in the sense that I am the one reacting negatively to what’s happening inside and outside of me.

I found that the fastest way to create the life that I really want is to confront what I habitually FEEL about my problems, bad situations, and crises–i.e. my emotional reaction to my life’s inner and outer circumstances.

To confront the reality of my life, I ask myself certain simple but powerful questions, which allow me to make an inventory of my unwanted conditions, of the negative emotions about them, and of all the costs (in terms of money, time, energy and life) associated with entertaining those bad feelings (including feelings of mistrust, anger, resentment, etc.)

I first ask myself: “What is most unwanted in my life right now?”
Then I ask: “how do I feel about this unwanted condition?”
Once I confront the emotion by getting present to it–whatever it may be, as long as it is some bad-feeling emotion–I then ask myself “Do I like to feel this way?”
If the answer is no, I then ask “What has it been costing me, and what is it going to continue costing me to feel this way?”
This is where being honest with myself is even more needed. I have to really ask myself the nitty-gritty questions and really start being brutally honest about how costly it has been so far to react in this bad-feeling way.

But this honesty always pays off in the sense that I will quickly become very clear that it simply no longer makes sense to spend all these resources and pay this high price–whatever the benefit or payoff of feeling bad in this way may have been so far (including that it allowed me to be right, to complain and blame, and generally to justify why things haven’t been the way I say I want them to be).

Then, once I am clear that emotionally reacting in this way simply no longer makes sense, I ask myself a few more simple questions and depending on my answers to those questions, I will usually either experience total permanent unconditional freedom from that old way of being (that negative emotional reaction), or I will know that I am the one choosing to stick with being a poor victim of my life’s inner and outer circumstances. Which then leaves me at peace, too, because I KNOW DEEP WITHIN that it’s all my choice–always.

It’s really cool when I go through the process completely. And what is cool, too, is that with my simple yet confrontational questions, I have been able to assist hundreds of other people in confronting themselves and creating permanent unconditonal freedom from often-lifelong ways of being, which clearly didn’t serve them any longer, but somehow kept sticking with them.
I feel very blessed for having this opportunity in my life.

So this is another angle one could take on this whole issue of trust. The neat thing is that once you are free from negative feelings, you really don’t need to increase your trust in someone else, because no matter what they do or don’t do, you’ll always feel at peace within yourself. In that state, life spontaneously unfolds in a way which is always exactly what you want it to be (because you no longer need the negative situations which used to trigger mistrust).

So if you really want to make your life simpler, Alex, you may want to first create freedom from whatever bad feelings you felt when you realized that the number of visitors to your blog had decreased, and you may also want to encourage your readers to check out my simple yet powerful Unconditional Freedom Process so they can quickly get rid of their own negative emotions they might have been entertaining about you and your predictability.

And if this way of looking at things jives with you and your readers, I’d be happy to contribute further thoughts to your blog as a contributing editor.

Regarding your formula [Predictability] x [Frequency] = “Accelerated” Trust, I think there may have been some misunderstanding of the [Frequency] part, based on some of the comments I read (though I could be wrong).

This is how I understood it (note: I did not read Covey’s book, so I may be off).

If predictability is present both in terms of the content AND the frequency (i.e. you deliver the type of content consistently and you do that with the frequency at which you promised to deliver it), then it doesn’t really matter what the frequency is–whether the content is delivered once a month or twice a week.

Of course, if you interact with people who don’t trust you yet or only very little, you may want to have a higher frequency of predictibility-demonstrating communications in the beginning of your relationship with those people, to quickly accelerate the growth of their trust in you, and thus get them to a high level of trust in you more quickly.

But just increasing the frequency of communications would not have that effect, if these communications were not predictable in terms of content and frequency (i.e. if you didn’t deliver what you promised in terms of content, and you kept switching around in terms of frequency of delivery–from once/day to twice/day, even though that is much more frequent than twice/week or once a month)

Did I get your point correctly, Alex?

I actually have another point I want to make, but I’ll reserve that one for another comment to this blog

Thank you for this timely post! I was just thinking about how to break into the habit of posting to my blog more frequently.

You’ve been the catalyst to get me started with blogging. You see, in early 2007 I started a blog (wordpress.com, blogger, etc) but never got past creating a free account and then posting a public entry. There was always some ‘thing’ that got in the way.

Then when I took Teleseminar Secrets in December, you emphasized getting a blog on your own domain. It took me 2 months to find a free template that was acceptable. All along I kept remembering your famous words of encouragement, “sloppy success beats perfected mediocity”. Challenging but doable for someone who suffers from occasional bouts of perfectionism…

I haven’t quite found my blog rhythm, but like you, I plan to post twice a week and look forward to growing my audience.

Thanks again for leading by example. And sparking me to take action!

Marian Hodges MBA
http://www.sparkactionnow.com

Thank you.

The consequence is irrelevant isn’t it? If I make a public declaration, the consequence will be your judgment about “my not following through” with a public commitment.

As one of my readers, the consequence is in your hands, not mine :-)